Dude that's a load of crap. First off even if there's confidence, you don't get to pick who comes after you. Just relax, and just flow. Where ever your going in life you'll bump into these woman who become really special to to you, of course you deserve it . Deserve ti more than some guy sneaking around on his girl thats' twice out of his league because he doesn't like the same hoo hah all the time. you can't make someone fall for you, so you can't go out looking for it, it just has to happen naturally, but first you just gotta relax. Say to yourself, I'm worth, I'm worth it, and it'll work out... the way it's meant to at least. There is an italian saying that says, "No one will ever take the one who is meant for you".