I've heard from many guys they have the problem they just want sex without a real partnership, but they often face the problem they girls they were in bed with eventually fell in love with them, and then they had the hassle of either accepting a relationship they don't really want, or to break a heart, make a girl unhappy and to stop seeing her.

Now I have the opposite problem. I'd love to have a real relationship. Sex is nice, but what I am really looking for is a happy, trusting relationship, with lots of talking, sharing and cuddling.

But somehow, I don't make it. I'm single now for a year, and I made out with a few girls. But none of them wanted a relationship, all they were after was sex. Then they wouldn't call me back, or when I sent them a flirting message, they'd bluntly reply "sorry, I'm not ready for anything more".

It's not that I am a guy who has "sex machine" labeled on his forehead or something. I'm not especially handsome, neither especially ugly, just average and a bit intellectual. So I don't think that's because girls think I'm the perfect guy for bed.

So what is the problem? Is it all just a weird coincidence? Do you have any opinions on that?

From what I've read on your profile you are a "college student" and you like "partying with your friends". Both scream not relationship ready. So in the meantime, just have fun and just let it happen
Don't go looking for relationships, relationships will find you

Now those are prejudices concerning college students, aren't they? ;)

At any rate, many of my friends don't seem to have this problem. Rather the opposite, as I said.

I guess you're right on that ... often, relationships happen when you expect it least.

Assuming you're average college age (18-22) then you're simply a strange breed. College is usually a time when people just want to let loose and have no commitments. You won't find a lot of people looking for a loving relationship, but all you can do is keep looking. That's all there is to it.

Actually I am a bit older than average college age already, I used to work a couple of years before I decided going to college. Maybe that is the problem too... I am a bit older than most people around me, and the girls I made out with. So maybe I just have to wait a few years until their "wild years" are over. On the other side, quite a few of these younger people are in relationships, despite their age.

But you're right, I need to keep looking. Try and error ... ;)

I mean, it's one thing if you're 40 and friendless and another if you're say, 24, and looking for love. Even if you're hovering around 26-28, you've got plenty of time. Just get engaged in all sorts of things that get you socially involved with people. Volunteer work, a job, extracurricular activities, anything where you can meet people. It's the best solution, just get out there!

Cons is right, and another thing is college girls don't usually want to jump into serious relationships either. So just be patient and shoot for a laid back relationship where you can go out and do things with the same girl until you can figure out what each other wants.

What is the rush? Have fun and experiment with a variety of women before you make up your mind.