But being used doesn't always have to be a bad thing..

well if you can stay emotionally detached then be my guest. Just to be certain that your aware that when that happens your being treated as an inanimate object, and it's a really shallow way to think. There's just no way your gonna beat the real thing.

Not necessarilarly. My first time was not for love. It was for lust. Sure, I liked her, but I wouldn't say that it was anywhere near love. And I'm pretty sure that neither of us would say we were used in that situation.

I think you misunderstood me. For me I've been molested in the past, I know how it feels to be used. So I often need to feel used by someone I adore and trust, to help me get over everything else. Being used in game form, when you have true love and safety behind it. Can be very healing.

Sex is definitely not over rated. but i would never have sex with anyone I didn't care about deeply. I used to be pissed off that I couldn't lose my virginity, (even though i dated some of the biggest sluts in my school) but looking back I'm so happy i stayed a virgin , First off i'd hat to think what imight of caught from thos people. Instead i hadd sex with someone i was in love with and cared about and it was great, obviously it felt freat and we both loved every second of it.

Well, it does indeed make sense if you feel something for the other person, but there are people who do abuse that. There are a lot of things of late that keep giving us messages that casual sex is a major trend. The makes a lot of men and women misguided to the point where women use sex to get love and men using love to get sex. I'm not speaking for everyone, but it's what I've come to see in our way of life as of late.

It's definately better when you love the one you're having sex with. That being said, it's definately okay to have a one night stand or two. If you don't, you'll always wonder what it would have been like. Just get it off your chest, it's not so bad. Just don't make it awkward after. If you have sex with someone you've known for a while and always had an attraction for, what's the point in doing it if it's weird being around them after?

LIGHTEN UP PEOPLE!

plz?

Lol. I love sex and can't get enough of it. I'm an admitted nymphomaniac

No..that means your sugar lump can't get off. Not the same as loving sex.

No offense but a Nymphomaniac is something that is a term too often used for people that aren't truly suffering from it. It comes with cramps, extreme moodiness, sharp pains and other oh so fun symptoms when you can't or aren't allowed to orgasm.

Hence.. sucks for me on days like today when my master isn't around and I promised to behave. Nymphomaniacs should be diagnosed. Not claimed.