Thread Revival: Virginity, does it matter?

Constantine · 07-16-2008, 09:12 AM

The original thread was locked due to some problems so let's try this one more time because it's a subject that everyone has an opinion on. Keep this on track and civil.

Does virginity matter?

To me, a girl with experience isn't bad. Neither is a virgin. The only problem I have is with someone who has had a lot of experience, like 40-50 guys deep kind of stuff. It just makes me feel . . gross. I don't know why, it just does.

How about you? How much does virginity matter when it comes to a relationship?

ysabel · 07-16-2008, 09:17 AM

I have to admit I have double standards. I don't think less of a guy who's had multiple (double digits) partners while a girl who's had the same makes me feel like there's something wrong with the girl.

As for virginity, I don't care if someone is or not. I don't care if I'm the first or the fifth. I'm more concerned whether I'm the only one at the moment. :)

Constantine · 07-16-2008, 09:29 AM

The one thing that I brought up that may weigh in as to why it's slightly more concerning that a woman has had multiple partners, is the fact that a woman can actually lose genital integrity from action while a man only loses it with age. Although, I don't think it's as much of a factor as STDs are when it comes to a high level of experience.

Italiano · 07-16-2008, 09:52 AM

At this point I'm more or less indifferent on the subject. Unless she's been with a high number of guys then I'm not too concerned.

If she's a virgin that's fine too. I dated a virgin a over year ago and it was fun. She was still a virgin at the end of the relationship and I don't really regret anything of it.

A partner with some experience can make it more fun and interesting to fool around while being with a virgin, if he/she does decide to let you be their first it, can be romantic... and possibly a little nerve racking.

TimmehD · 07-16-2008, 12:23 PM

Well, to me, it does and it doesn't.

It is hard for me to imagine some other guy having sex with the woman I love, even if it was in the past. I would love for my significant other to be a virgin and to be able to be with me, and me alone. However, I'm not going to turn a girl down who's had sex before. I mean, hell, most people regret their first time (I may make a thread about that). Also, what about rape? If your significant other was molested at a young age or raped, then they technically aren't a virgin and how can you hold that against them?

That hits really close to home for my current relationship and it still hurts to think about it, but, I'd never hold anything in her past against her and hopefully most people wouldn't.

ValentinSelezynov · 07-17-2008, 08:49 AM

I think that if you're an 18 year old virgin, you're suppressing yourself. I also think that anyone who is "saving" them self for marriage based on Judeo-Christian beliefs is an idiot and needs to learn how to interpret their bible/torah.

ysabel · 07-17-2008, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by ValentinSelezynov

I think that if you're an 18 year old virgin, you're suppressing yourself. I also think that anyone who is "saving" them self for marriage based on Judeo-Christian beliefs is an idiot and needs to learn how to interpret their bible/torah.

Seriously?

What about simply being responsible enough not to engage in actions where you won't be ready to assume the consequences? There's too much social pressure when you're a teenager to get into sex. Part of it is pretty much like your argument...like something is wrong with you if you don't give in by xx age.

ValentinSelezynov · 07-17-2008, 09:00 AM

Give in to what? Nature.

You can be sure that a 17 year old boy who isn't having sex is masturbating. If he can't get a girl, fair enough. But if he can and chooses not to, that's pretty pathetic.

If you act responsibly there wont be any consequences. And if there are, well that's what clinics are for.

ysabel · 07-17-2008, 09:18 AM

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Originally Posted by ValentinSelezynov

Give in to what? Nature.

You can be sure that a 17 year old boy who isn't having sex is masturbating. If he can't get a girl, fair enough. But if he can and chooses not to, that's pretty pathetic.

Give in to having a sexual intercourse with someone for the sake of satisfying libido. Call it nature if you want. You do realise that kids as early as toddler age arleady feel sexual arousal, it doesn't mean they should have sex and if they don't they're pathetic. Impulse control is part of maturity process.

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If you act responsibly there wont be any consequences. And if there are, well that's what clinics are for.

Relying on clinics' availability as a fallback...yeah that sounds really responsible.

ValentinSelezynov · 07-17-2008, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by ysabel

Give in to having a sexual intercourse with someone for the sake of satisfying libido. Call it nature if you want. You do realise that kids as early as toddler age arleady feel sexual arousal, it doesn't mean they should have sex and if they don't they're pathetic. Impulse control is part of maturity process.

Relying on clinics' availability as a fallback...yeah that sounds really responsible.

It is nature. Of course controlling yourself is a part of the maturity process. I'm not saying go at it like rabits, but denying yourself when you obviously want it is silly. I don't think a toddler would know what to do, even if they do get aroused. Which is just weird to talk about so i'm going to stop there.

I'm not relying on clinics. If you take care there wont be any horrible consequences. But if something splits it's not the end of the world.