Wow! I am sorry about the loss of your grandfather, but your grandma is doing well for herself isn't she? That is great, I bet she does miss him terribly, but obviously she was able to make it on without someone she dedicated herself to and continued to live her life how she saw fit.

My friend's grandmother passed away and her grandfather said he could never live without her, and sure enough he went from incredibly healthy to passing 5 years later. I have never been able to decide whether I find that insanely endearing, or sad that he truly felt that way.

I guess I should be sensitive to the fact that I know people all handle things differently, and I come off as a bit callous, but I can't let anything stop me, sure I will be sad, but it isn't life ending.

There are only 4 people I can think of who's deaths would alter my life and cause me to grieve uncontrollably.
I think the suffering of a loved one is so much harder to deal with than the actual passing. I'm sorry for what you'll be going through Hime.

She's not doing too well now, but she has all these years. What she dedicated herself to was a convenience store/bus stop that she and my grandfather had been running since about 1942. She closed it down about 6 years ago. The waking up every morning to open the store and work I think also contributed to her longevity.

I don't think you're being callous, I think it's a healthy attitude to have.

People adapt and change, it's just the way it is. The most important person to me died about 4 years ago now. I haven't forgotten him and I think of him often. I miss having someone that I knew beyond a doubt never judged me and who I could tell anything to. I haven't had quite that closeness with anyone else and I miss it terribly. I miss our weekly poker games, we always had the best times playing together, and it was the start of our bonding. I haven't played poker in forever.

But I still go on. Sure, I was a mess for awhile...but you just have to go on. Your loved one wouldn't want you to waste away in their memory.