Not to start a fight on here..
But coming from a father that never should have been one.. Having a child should be a right, but because so many people abuse it, is a privilege. Your kids aren't something to use and throw away when you don't want them anymore. If your going to emotionally or physically destroy someone, you should do it to yourself, not your children. Years of therapy and someone to trust May heal it.. but it's going to take a lifetime to relearn everything that you were held to at childhood. I wouldn't want any child in the situation I'm in. If your a parent thats going to beat, belt or whip your child, you shouldn't be allowed to continue doing so.