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08-16-2008, 01:23 AM
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/ˈɪzəˌbɛl/
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What does it take for you to FORGIVE
...or at least forget? 
Are you big on letting people go off with a simple apology (after all not everyone is capable of saying "sorry")?
Or do you think they have to earn your forgiveness, not just apologise?
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08-16-2008, 01:26 AM
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Usually I will not get into a situation like this, But when it's needed I will forgive and I'm very reasonable about it. I tend to avoid people that I fight with a lot so that helps a lot 
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08-16-2008, 01:34 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by ysabel
...or at least forget?
Are you big on letting people go off with a simple apology (after all not everyone is capable of saying "sorry")?
Or do you think they have to earn your forgiveness, not just apologise? |
Usually I am very forgiving, I think. I'm not easily offended in the first place, I usually try to give everybody the benefit of the doubt. And I can't remember having been offended so deeply yet, by anybody, that an honest, open display of regret and apology would not have been good enough for me.
Maybe I am forgetting anything, but I'd say I'm usually not a person who holds grudges.
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08-16-2008, 01:35 AM
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I'm a pretty forgiving person. If you're (wo)man enough to apologize to me then I most likely won't be mad at you. although earning my trust is something different. It's hard for me to trust someone after they've broken it once.
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08-16-2008, 01:42 AM
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I forgive you if you had my trust for a long enough time. If you haven't had my trust, you're up **** creek. And you also have no paddle.
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08-16-2008, 01:54 AM
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It depends really. If its small I'm forgiving, If its a big thing then it can take me a long time to forgive
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08-16-2008, 02:02 AM
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For me it depends on the level of offense:
It takes a lot for me to get the point where I actually need to forgive someone. So once you hurt me so badly to the point that I need to think about whether or not to forgive you - it's probably going to take a while and take a lot.
If it's just the small stuff, I'm big on symbolic things I call peace offerings. It's a way of showing you're sorry and not just saying it. It can be anything trivial that makes me smile.
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Coexisting gracefully with the unresolved. - GFisms Vegito ŕ Kimi: "But damn. Why's this so damn scary? This is worse than someone breaking into my house and chasing me with a knife."
Counting down to my well-deserved vacation!:
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08-16-2008, 03:23 AM
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Supercow! Al rescate!
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I am forgiving but I have to have a stubborn period first. In the end I always forgive but I'll make the person feel a bit bad first.
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Mom told me never to talk to strangers, and you're pretty strange.
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08-16-2008, 09:27 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Bliss
I am forgiving but I have to have a stubborn period first. In the end I always forgive but I'll make the person feel a bit bad first.
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Haha. I understand what you mean. If they endured your stubborn period gracefully, that merits forgiveness. 
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I also feel that sometimes people say sorry automatically but don't really mean it.
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Coexisting gracefully with the unresolved. - GFisms Vegito ŕ Kimi: "But damn. Why's this so damn scary? This is worse than someone breaking into my house and chasing me with a knife."
Counting down to my well-deserved vacation!:
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Last edited by ysabel; 08-16-2008 at 09:27 AM.
Reason: Automerged Doublepost
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